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On Valentines Day some of the NION Women collective wrote letters of love, solidarity, and support to the trans+ community as a 'Valentines Yay' boost. Now we're asking other women to send their own letters too.
This Valentine’s Day, we’re asking: what would you say directly to someone who needs to hear they’re not alone?
Sometimes the simplest gestures carry the most weight. A few kind words, a hug, a reminder that someone sees you, something that shows you are not alone.
This campaign was inspired by a powerful act of remembrance and love launched by Ben West in memory of his brother, who tragically took his own life.
Too many trans people carry the weight of constant scrutiny, exclusion, and hatred. They read headlines that question their right to exist. They navigate systems that deny them dignity. They wonder if anyone truly sees them as human.
We do. And we want them to know it.
These aren’t political statements or policy arguments. They’re not activism or advocacy. They’re simply letters – from one person to another – saying: I see you. You matter. You deserve to live your life in peace.
They might be:
They can be long or short, poetic or plain-spoken. What matters is that they’re honest and they come from the heart.
If you’re a woman who isn’t trans and you want to send a message of support, we’d love to include your letter.
You don’t need to be an expert. You don’t need perfect words. You don’t need to have all the answers to complex questions. You just need to believe that trans people deserve kindness, safety, and the right to live without being blamed for harm they don’t cause.
Maybe you’ve stayed quiet because the conversation feels too hostile.
Maybe you’ve wanted to show support but didn’t know how. This is one small way to do that.
Here are a few love letters from women in our community:
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Hey there,
I just wanted to send you a short message to let you know that who you are is enough. You are valid and you deserve the same respect and safety as the next person and I for one will continue to speak up for you and the community to make sure that becomes a reality.
I can only imagine how tough things must feel right now but please know there are people out there who value all you bring to this world, whether they have met you already or are yet to be graced with your presence.
Stay strong, be kind to yourself and know that when the fight feels too much we are right there by your side to hold you help and take the battle on for you,
Emma
Dear wonderful human,
The world is a crazy place right now but you matter. Please know that we respect and love you. You are your authentic self and are valued for who you are.
When times are bleak and dark, please know you are loved and respected. You shine a light and your light will always over power those darker days.
This letter is just a snap shot of the thoughts of many who stand by you.
We are with you, you are you and we will continue to fight for you.
Helen x
Dear friend
I am sorry for all you’re going through, but so grateful for all you enrich in our world. Diversity, authenticity, truth and acceptance matter more than anything right now, and you’re at the forefront of that. Your community always has been.
I hope to see change for the better soon. I know I love my trans friends and family, and I am sure you’re loved by people too.
Keep going and take care of yourself. This L with the T will definitely keep fighting for you.
Love and respect,
Hilary
Dear friend
I am sorry that things are so difficult right now.
My daughter is a young trans woman. I want for her what every parent wants for their child – that she is happy, safe, fulfilled and loved. The fact that she is trans is not the most interesting or important thing about her. She is a kind, funny, bright, thoughtful young woman. But in the last couple of years her very existence has sometimes seemed to be open to debate.
So I just wanted to say that there are many people like me who have trans loved ones. Parents, grandparents, partners, siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins. We are a vast but often unseen army of allies. Our voices may not always be heard. But please remember how many people love and respect trans people and are hoping and wishing with all our hearts that there are better times coming.
For now, I promise that I will speak up for trans people whenever I can. And that I stand by your side in whatever struggles you face. And hold you in my arms when things are tough.
Sending you my love,
Emma
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If you’d like to contribute a love letter, here’s how:
Option 1: Submit anonymously
Share your words (max 200) without your name attached. Many women have stayed silent because they fear backlash. We understand, and your letter still matters.
Option 2: Sign with your first name or initials
A little more personal, still protected.
Deadline: February 28th
We’ll be sharing these letters throughout February and beyond – on our website, on social media, and wherever else we can make sure they reach the people who need to read them.
Trans people are constantly bombarded by toxic messaging that makes them feel like they are the problem. We refuse to let those be the only voices they hear.
This Valentine’s Day, let’s make sure they hear ours too.
With solidarity and care,
The NION Women Collective 🩷
If you haven’t signed our letter you can do so here and join the 80,000+ women who’ve already spoken up.